As an honest person, I have already dissuaded probably a dozen people from therapy. I hope they are happy now.
After all, the main problem with psychotherapy is that people want to be sold happiness.
But for happiness there is heroin.
The market for psychological services, however, follows the demand, everyone sells happiness and positivity, energizes and so on “everything will be fine.” The easiest way to do this is in the format of trainings or retreats.
But if there is a hole in you, then this happiness will pour out of you in a couple of weeks. And it’s time to go to the next training, yes. (And there is undoubtedly a hole in you if your own happiness does not linger within yourself).
Besides, people love simple ways.
But for simple ways there is heroin.
You can position therapy as “a difficult but working way to achieve happiness.” But this will not be true, and I am an honest person.
Therapy is a way to regain fullness of life.
The fullness of life includes misfortunes. But also happiness.
The fullness of life is generally a questionable thing, but it is also the best of those that I have had and still have.
Everyone knows that “misfortunes” set off “happiness” and that you can’t be happy forever - it gets boring. But this knowledge does not help.
However, “fullness of life” is not “I promise that you will feel happiness, but in exchange for unhappiness.”
An important nuance is that this is completeness.
Previously, you had a price list of only two items, like:
Work: -50 happiness,
Game of tanks: +5 happiness per hour
In order to break even, you had to play tank for 10 hours after work. There are no other ways out.
When I was depressed (and not yet in therapy), I had a friend who said something along the lines of “oh, go sit in a coffee shop, it gives +10 happiness.” If you go 100 times, you will be cured of depression.
I went to my price list, found there “sitting in a coffee shop - see “wasting money on crap,” I went to “spend money on crap” and found there “-10 happiness.”
Yes, I had depression and addiction, I’m a normal person.
During the therapy process, you open a complete and honest price list. And he's big. Well, naturally, complete. Hence the “fullness of life.”
And there is such a choice right away! My eyes widen.
(In advanced cases, you can even choose misfortunes from the price list, in the spirit of “okay, something is bothering me today, let me suffer on the topic of “nobody loves me” and do it ironically, but they will still count it”).
In the simple language of therapists, the client is given ways to experience not only neurotic pleasures, but also pleasures of a higher order, but must make the choice himself whether he wants it or not.
Unfortunately, pleasures of the highest order require conscious effort, and who wants that!
It’s better to leave everything as it is - and 10 hours in tanks.
The life of each of us is a series of certain events. But its richness and usefulness are determined by such a concept as
Everyone has their own attitude towards any phenomenon, but there are certain norms (points of intersection) of these ideas. What is the fullness of human life?
When a person does not constrain himself within strict boundaries (we are not talking about legal prohibitions) and can freely communicate with many people, engage in activities, freely manage, and at the same time does not experience any serious difficulties or restrictions, then he can claim that he lives a rich life .
Some believe that for a full existence it is enough, but the realities of our current existence are such that without money (or other material assets) human life is simply impossible.
Even to conduct a subsistence economy, you need not only initial capital to purchase seeds, seedlings, animals, but also constantly make expenses for the purchase of feed, fertilizers, and agricultural equipment.
Therefore, the spiritual will constantly come up against material restrictions, which means that a person will still feel not completely free in his actions.
For fullness of life a person needs the following components:
- family - a person who lives only for himself is not a fully social and biological being, since we are inherent in procreation and family relationships;
- happiness - the feeling that everything in your life suits you completely;
— love – the presence of hormones and emotions requires their proper use, and love helps to realize both;
- friendship - in addition to family ties, a person needs communication, support, sharing hobbies;
- social status - helps to gain confidence in one’s own abilities, in one’s need for society;
- material well-being - allows you to exist normally and fulfill everyday and social needs, but you should not strive to get all the riches of the world, otherwise you risk losing all the other details of the life mosaic;
- work (business) - provides income and creates material well-being, but they should not be a burden, otherwise, instead of the expected moral satisfaction, it can bring nervous overload;
— hobbies, hobbies (self-realization) - help you relax your soul and fill the missing gaps in your life.
TO fullness of life it is necessary to strive, it must be achieved in all acceptable ways. People forge their own happiness, and material, social and spiritual well-being are its integral elements.
Only constant active actions can help a person acquire all the necessary details to fill the space of his life. The feeling that what you want has already been achieved will come by itself when all the elements are in place, and you will understand that life is truly wonderful.
To achieve such a sense of self, it is necessary not to miss a single chance given by life, to cling to any straw sent by fate. This is the only way to get the maximum possible bonuses from life.
After all, life is, in essence, a game where every strong-willed person independently chooses his role, and the weak one resigns himself to the position he has been given.
You can change the course of the game in your favor only by independently controlling its process.
Fight for your right to always be under a lucky star, enter all the doors opened by fate and knock on the locked ones, and then Fortune will certainly bestow its prosperity on you.
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Completeness human life
* The history of psychology is full mainly of people of the first type, in their own way, of course, very well prepared, who worked mainly with patients, trying to understand what led them to illness. The goal of such psychologists is to warn against everything bad that can happen in life. Their intentions were good, and their efforts brought us all great benefit. But nevertheless, a special place in history belongs to the “father of humanistic psychology” Abraham Maslow. He dealt not so much with the sick and the causes of illness, but with the study of healthy (“self-realized”) people, trying to understand where health comes from to a person. Abbey Maslow was obviously a "B" type of person. bon voyage"He was more interested in how it turns out that things are going well than in why they are bad. He was more eager to find the source of full-blooded human life and thought less about how to prevent possible troubles on the path of life.
* Following the tradition of Maslow's humanistic psychology, I would now like to outline a person who lives a full life, and make a number of observations about what exactly makes him healthy.
* In general, we can say that those people who use all their abilities, strengths and talents live full-blooded lives. Their feelings are fully manifested: both outward-oriented, towards the perception of the surrounding world, and inward-oriented, associated with the experiences of external impressions. No human emotions are alien to them; they are open to any forms of expression. Heightened sensation life permeates their mind and heart, manifesting itself in volitional decisions. Many of us are instinctively afraid to live and act to our full potential. For the sake of safety, we prefer not to take risks, but to accept the gift life as if in small, carefully measured doses. A person who lives fully is confident that if he lives and acts with full dedication, the result will not be chaos, but harmony.
* Feelings of those who live in fullness life, directed outward and oriented inward, are developed and do not become dull. They see the beauty of the world, hear its music and poetry, feel the aroma of every unique day, they are familiar with admiration for any moment of existence. Of course, the ugly sides life their feelings are offended, but they are protected by the perception of her beautiful side. To be alive in everything means to be open to the whole range of human experiences. It is a struggle to get to the top of the mountain, a struggle that is rewarded by the majestic view of it. Living life to the fullest means having a developed imagination and sense of humor, maintaining spontaneity and liveliness of emotions. Such people experience the entire spectrum of human feelings - surprise, awe, tenderness, sympathy - right up to the delight of ecstasy and the despair of the end.
* Such is the mind of one who lives life to the fullest. These people understand well the wise saying of Socrates: “It is not worth living without thinking.” They always have something to think about. They are able to correctly ask life their own questions and are flexible enough to let her pose the questions to them. They will not live thoughtlessly in an incomprehensible world. More than anyone else, they live both by will and feeling. These people truly love and sincerely respect themselves. All love begins with this, is built on the ability to truly value yourself. Life brings them joy and satisfaction, happiness to be themselves, just as they are. And they love others with understanding and attention. Care and love are the main content of their attitude towards everything. In their life there are people who are dear to them, whose happiness and safety are important to them as their own. They are devoted and faithful to those they love.
* The life of people who live fully, joyfully and festively is not at all like a long funeral procession, every tomorrow is a new opportunity that they look forward to. Life and death take on their meaning. And when the hour of death comes, their hearts are full of gratitude for what was, for “what we were,” for everything beautiful that was given to them, for all life experience. A smile illuminates them when at the end of days they remember their lives. And this world will always be for them the best, happiest place for a person, because this is where they lived, laughed, and loved.
* The so-called sweet life should not be mistaken for a full life. People who live their lives to the fullest experience both success and failure precisely because they live to the fullest. They avoid neither pain nor pleasure. They have a lot of questions and not many answers. They cry and laugh. They both dream and hope. The only thing that is alien to them is passivity and apathy. They say life an energetic “yes,” and for love a resounding “let there be.” These people experience growing pains, moving from the old to the new; their sleeves are always rolled up, thoughts overtake each other, and their hearts burn with fire. They are mobile, always in the process of development - children of constant evolution. How to take this path? How to join this dance life in its entirety?
* There are five steps you need to take to get fat life. Each of these five steps involves the emergence of a significantly new understanding, perception. The deeper this novelty of perception of oneself and the environment life, the more possible it is to achieve completeness life. Briefly, these five steps boil down to the following: 1) accept yourself, 2) be yourself, 3) forget yourself in love, 4) believe, 5) belong. Obviously, all growth begins with the fact that a person accepts himself with a feeling of joy as he is. Otherwise, he will forever be involved in an endless and painful internal civil war. If we accept and see ourselves in a positive light, then we are already freed from the burden of doubts about whether others will approve of us, whether they will perceive us as we are.
* The more we accept ourselves, the more free we are. We are given the freedom to be ourselves with full freedom and without hesitation. But on the other hand, the desire to live only for oneself and to love only oneself builds prison walls around us. We need to learn to go beyond our “I” into the wide expanse of genuine loving relationships. The sincerity of love and the relationships based on it will depend on our ability to truly love. When love takes a person beyond the limits of the “I,” he must find faith. Each of us needs to learn to believe in someone or something so deeply that life takes on meaning, a sense of our own mission, a personal calling. And the more a person devotes himself to this calling, the sooner he will be able to develop a deep sense of his personal belonging to the community, to discover the reality of community with like-minded people.
* Let's now look at each of these steps.
Accept yourself. People who live life to the fullest accept themselves as they are, and do not live with dreams of tomorrow or hopes for the opportunities that may someday open up for them. They treat themselves with the same warm and joyful feeling that arises when meeting those whom we sincerely admire. Such people realize that there is good in themselves, starting with the small things (gait or smile), the talents given to them by nature, and ending with the virtues that they have developed in themselves. When faced with imperfection or limitations in themselves, they approach it with compassion, trying to understand rather than blame themselves. Source full life lies within the person himself, in psychological terms this means that joyful acceptance of oneself, a favorable opinion about oneself, a feeling self-esteem and honor become the initial setting that directs the movement of the individual towards complete and comprehensive life.
Be yourself. Accepting yourself gives you the opportunity and freedom to lead. real life. Only those who have joyfully accepted themselves can take the risk and responsibility of being themselves. Most of us use different masks when playing certain social roles. The mechanisms of our former “I” operate within us, which try to prevent new injuries, but they also separate us from reality and dull our vision, depriving us of the ability to live. Being yourself means many things: freedom, the right to experience and convey to others your feelings, ideas and affections. This means thinking for yourself, deciding for yourself, making choices. Anyone who can do this has risen above the humiliating need to constantly seek the approval of others. Such people are not for sale to anyone. Their feelings, thoughts and decisions cannot be rented. “Be true to yourself” - this is the life principle on which their image is built life.
Forget yourself in love. Having learned to accept themselves and be themselves, people living in the fullness of being come to master the art of forgetting about themselves - the art of love. They learn to move beyond their own self to truly care for and take responsibility for others. The scale of a person’s personal world is determined by how wide and deep his heart is. The real world becomes our home only to the extent that we have learned to love it. Fully living people leave the dark and cramped world of egocentrics, where they always live alone. They have developed empathy, the ability to deeply feel what others are experiencing. And it turns out that you can enter the world of other people’s feelings, as if they were “inside” them own world or they themselves entered the world of their loved ones. Therefore, the world of a person living in fullness suddenly expands, and the ability to perceive a variety of human experiences increases enormously. Such people become “people for others.” Some of the “others” are dear to them, and this brings that feeling of personal devotion about which it is said: “No one has greater love than that.” With their whole lives they will protect those they love.
Be loving person- this is not at all the same as being the so-called doer of good. "Doers of good" use other people as a convenient opportunity to demonstrate their own virtue, which they take great care to maintain. The one who loves learns to shift the center of his attention and interest from himself to others, to deeply care about them. The difference between those who do good and those who love is the difference between life on stage and life in reality. existing love. cannot be imitated. Concern for and interest in others must be genuine, sincere, otherwise our love means nothing. This is very important: you cannot learn to live without learning to love.
Believe. By learning to look beyond their own interests, people who live fully discover meaning life. This meaning is found in what Viktor Frankl called “a special life calling or mission.” It means dedication to a person or cause in which one believes and to which one can dedicate oneself. This devotion to faith shapes life and gives meaning to all efforts and actions. Devotion to their life's task elevates such people above the pettiness and narrow-mindedness that overwhelm a life devoid of high meaning. When life is devoid of such meaning, a person almost completely surrenders to the flow of his own drives in pursuit of sensations. All he can do is experiment and search." new fashion", a way to break out of the circle of boredom and monotony. Deprived, a person wanders in the wilds of drug hallucinations, in the fog of drunkenness, in the labyrinth of meaningless orgies; he seems to be obsessed with the desire to itch, even when there is no itch. Human nature does not tolerate emptiness. We must find a job to believe in him, otherwise we will spend the rest of our days trying to somehow compensate for our own bankruptcy.
Belong. The fifth and final component of the complete human life is “a place called home” and the sense of community that comes with it. A community is an association of individuals who “have things in common” and participate in the possession of the most valuable thing they have - themselves. They know each other and are mutually open. Each of them is for others. They give themselves and their lives to others in love. Those who live life to the fullest have a similar sense of belonging - to their families, to their communities, to the whole human family. There are other people around them with whom they feel good and communication with whom gives them a sense of mutual belonging. And they have a place where their absence will be felt and their death mourned. When communicating with loved ones, these people find mutual satisfaction in giving or receiving.
On the contrary, the feeling of isolation always impoverishes and destroys us internally, pushing us into the abyss of loneliness and alienation. Human nature is subject to an inevitable law: we cannot become anything less than an individual, but we cannot be simply and only individuals. People are not islands. Butterflies are free, but we need the heart of another person to become a home for our heart. Only by having a home can you find the peace and tranquility that people who live life to the fullest have.
* This is the appearance of people living life to the fullest. They conquered these five steps internal development, which I spoke about, and main question, which they set in life, sounds something like this: how will I receive and bring greatest benefit Today, I will experience more joy and pleasure from communicating with these people, and I will better solve the problem facing me. With their words and deeds, such people create rather than destroy, their attitudes are flexible, and they are capable of sustainable and mutually enriching relationships.
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At first glance, these statements sound strange. Where am I if I'm not myself? It seems like I’m here, walking, talking...
What do you mean? To answer this question, let us turn to our wise language.
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What do they say about a person who behaves inappropriately, destructively for himself and others? " He's not himself».
In difficult and shocking situations, when a person is attacked by cold and despair, they say “ he flew out" By the way, in some cases people actually lose consciousness from the inability to accept what is happening as it is.
They say about very strange people, seemingly unadapted to life, “ not of this world».
If a person lives by speculative constructions, fantasies about how and what he could achieve, but nothing changes in life, this is called “ be ungrounded».
These are all facets of the same phenomenon. The spiritual essence of a person is not located in his body. In fact, his Soul does not fully live on Earth.
Simply put, in this case, the bulk of your energy and consciousness is located anywhere but in your body, that is, not in your life.
You do not feel the fullness of life.
In this case, living on Earth feels “too difficult, unsafe and constricted.”
In earthly life, the freedom of multidimensional movement, the feeling of boundless love and unity with all that exists, telepathy and the embodiment of everything necessary “out of nowhere” have been lost.
Instead, we get a small mortal body, the need to earn food by the sweat of our brow, difficulties in understanding ourselves and others, disappointment and separation...
How to live with this? How can we endure this life and move forward to liberation-death?
But is this really the solution? We offer another option.
Essence and purpose spiritual practices– do not increase your longing for “ higher worlds" And teach you fill your body with spiritual essence and life.
In fact, completely come back to yourself and feel the fullness of life, that is, fill life with yourself.
Body filled with spiritual essence, raises its vibrations and begins to work in a new way.
It is not for nothing that the relics (remains of bodies) of saints are believed to have special power. This is true - some people have achieved such deep integration of their spiritual essence that their bodies have changed quality and become miraculous.
Masters high level are capable of miracles in the physical world precisely because of integration, i.e., changing the vibrations of their body due to the “entry” of the Spirit into it.
Instead of spiritual resistance, they receive spiritual integration.
Let's look at what will help you integrate the higher part into the body And eliminate spiritual resistance life.
This is the basics. Grounding is your connection with the Earth, with the physical world, with your own body.
If you stand firmly on the ground(our wise language again) - you are financially stable, healthy, self-confident.
I am not talking about “global Destination” now. But simply about any activity from which you get satisfaction.
A small recipe - it should combine knowledge of new things, give “feedback” (so that you understand how much you are progressing in this matter).
Psychology professor Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi called such activities “flow.”
The experience of flow is a state of complete fusion with your work, absorption by it, when you don’t feel time, yourself, when instead of fatigue there is a constant surge of energy...
... The flow does not descend on us as grace, but is generated by our meaningful efforts, it is in our hands.
(c) Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi “Flow”
- these are the points on the planet where the integration of spiritual energy into physical energy is most powerfully manifested. As a rule, this happened due to crystals, the collective intention of people and other higher entities.
Over time and with proper practice, you will learn to create a Place of Power wherever you are, on your own.
But first, gather resources in special and most suitable places for this.
And, if you feel that the house or city in which you live has low vibrations and is weighing you down, perhaps you need to help yourself and move.
During the integration process, it is important to have support and attention from your environment.
People who destroy you, have a dull and cruel picture of the world, do not contribute to this.
Find like-minded people who support you and can listen “through thick and thin.”
You can find like-minded people in our community of spiritual practitioners “Keys of Mastery”!
The origins of resistance are the illusion of your separation from God, longing for Home, the body’s unwillingness to accept your spiritual essence.
It’s not easy to get through, but it’s possible and necessary. The tips described above will help you.
If it is difficult for you to apply the above points in life, for example, you lack the will to practice physical exercise, perhaps it is with the elimination of spiritual resistance at the quantum level that we need to start.
You can realize this and free yourself from internal resistance to your new, wonderful changes.
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